What "For better and for worse" means

For better for worse in its Original form, means that couples are to go through the good and bad times of their marriage together. This is the simplest meaning. This vow is made by one spouse to the other. It is an expression of how much they value each other. However, I have issues with this marriage vow because it has been subjected to abuse and misinterpretation. Didn't the scripture say that if you won't keep a vow, don't make it?
So I stand before a woman and promise her the whole world and just a few months into our union, I have reneged on all those promises. The vow of for better for worse became official in the 16th century. It can not be found in the scriptures. I know that many Christians sincerely believe it is in their bible. What the bible says is this: 'then shall a man leave his father and mother and be cleaved to his wife and they shall become One'. They shall become one. As One, they experience the good and bad times. They face the challenges of marriage together. They are not to give up on each other. Each spouse is to be available for the other, in sickness, poverty, hunger, failure, weakness, everything. It didn't say, you should be there when he wants to punch. It didn't say you should be there when he turns into a herdsman. It didn't say allow him to pour acid on you.
People who are quick to quote this scripture are evil.
Survival is a basic human instinct. Are you a learner?
When you see danger, you have to run from it. When Jezebel threatened Elijah, he didn't go into fasting and prayer, he ran for his life.

Many times they jews tried to stone Jesus but he Escaped. He ran for his life, because it wasn't time to die. He even encouraged the apostles to do same. "When they persecute you in one town, run to another town".
God said to Joseph take the little child, Jesus and escape to Egypt. I mean the Almighty God. He didn't say, Joseph go with Mary and Jesus into the temple and start fasting.
God gave you common sense so that you can deal with common issues. If a Spouse becomes physically abusive, you have to leave that marriage. Let me explain further. They shall become One. Look at the functionality of your body parts. When your head aches, do you get a hammer and hit on it?
When your stomach aches what do you do?
When any part of your body malfunctions, do you harm it? No. You look for solution and cure. How can you beat up your wife for nagging? Is she not part of you? You see the hypocrisy. Men will tell you that it is for better for worse, but they fail to see the part that says, they shall become One. If you are convinced that your wife is One with you, you will never hit her. It is cowardice to abuse a woman physically.
Marriage has a purpose. If the purpose is abused the marriage becomes null.
God is more interested in you than the marriage itself.
Marriage was made for humans not the other way. It is very cruel to tell a woman in pains from domestic violence, to go and be praying and fasting. You are wicked and God will punish you. I am a Man. If a woman lifts her hand and hit me, that will be the end of that marriage. If I was a woman I would do the same. I love my life more than any relationship or marriage. If the marriage has got to the point where a party can comfortably lift a hand or object and hit his/her partner, it is proof enough that the marriage is done. When women learn to walk from abusive relationships, men will learn to keep their vows. Abusive men will have you believe that it is better to be a frustrated wife than to be a happy divorcee. Pay no attention to them. They are liars. Just ask yourself this. Why do men put away their wives for infidelity? Why don't they pray about it? Can you not see the hypocrisy?
If a man values you and wants you to stay, he will treat you well. How can you be treating someone like trash, and expect him/her to stay around, except you believe that he/she is your slave.
A Woman that KNOWS her worth will never stay and become a punching bag or door mat.
I am saying this in light of the recent case of matrimonial martyrdom, of Ronke Shonde. You can learn from her experience or decide to fall a victim too. There is no special reward for people who died from domestic violence. If you fear what people will say, you can rest assured that people will talk when you die. Walk when you still can.
Without agreement, two cannot walk. When you are in agreement with your spouse domestic violence won't be present.
Reject every demon that will encourage you to stay put in an abusive marriage. If a Man can become violent towards a prostitute and beat her up, what do you think such man will do to his wife?
You life, your happiness, your fulfilment is exclusively your business. You don't owe anybody an explanation.
If a relationship/marriage is making your life worse, walk out of it, and don't look back like Lot's wife. God instituted marriage as a platform for two persons to partner for the fulfilment of purpose. Any marriage that violates this singular purpose is Null.
Copyright, Victor Ibeh 2016