Don't let what they say bother you, when you marry, you are there alone, not with them

My spirit keeps directing me to write on this issue I'm about to write now. Each time I'm led by the spirit to write, I keep dismissing it... Right now its giving me headache that I must write it by fire by force, so to stop the torment on me, let me write it. Maybe there is someone I'm about to liberate.

I have had discussions with lot of people both here on the internet and in real life, they keep telling me why they can't marry an ugly person, for the ladies, they say they can't marry a much more older men.

Then what's most of their reasons?

They want someone they can show-off with. One of them told me that her friends will laugh at her if she marries an ugly guy... Like seriously?

So, few days ago, a dude met me for an advise, he told me that there is this lady he likes and will want to marry, but the problem is that she is ugly and also not his class. He said his problem is his friends, that they will laugh him to scorn if he ever tell them that its the girl he wants to marry... Like seriously?

Firstly, I asked him what is "CLASS?" What makes someone look "CLASSY?" With money, you can make any human being look classy not matter the remotest village you brought the person from. 

Secondly, I asked him to show me the picture of the girl. When he showed me, I laughed uncontrollably at the girl's ugliness. He said; "Anita you see what I'm talking about, even you are laughing".

After I finished laughing, I asked him to sure me the picture again and he did, but this time, I didn't laugh because I have already seen and laughed at the picture previously. I asked him, did I laugh this second time I saw this picture? He answered no. I said to him, see my guy, people only laugh at a joke once, if you crack the joke again, it becomes a dry joke and no one will laugh. This is what happens when you marry someone people will probably laugh at, they laugh once and will never laugh again.

I asked him again, how do you feel when you are with her? He said he feels complete, that among all the girls he has ever dated, she is the only one that understands him, makes him happy and all that. I asked him again, will you rather marry a pretty girl that everyone will wow! About but end up not having a peaceful home? His answer was "NO". I told him, you are the one getting married to her not your friends, how people feel about your spouse shouldn't be your problem, your problem should be how you feel about your spouse.

See my dear friends, anyone that will laugh at your choice of partner will only do that on your wedding day (that's if the person hasn't seen your partner before the wedding day). They laugh that day, eat your rice and drink your wine, then go home and forget about you and your spouse, the only person left to live with your spouse is you and no one else... Don't let people's judgement determine whoever you want to live with.

When Amara Nwosu posted pictures of her wedding with francis Van-Lanre, people said all sort of things and after one week, the whole heat died off. Now, whenever she posts the picture of she and her husband, the same people that wagged their tongues are now the same people praising and envying her marriage.

The truth is that, we all love beautiful things, but not all of us can make it with beautiful people. If that ugly girl is the girl that will give you peace of mind and make you feel at home in that marriage, please overlook people's reaction... Your happiness is what is paramount not theirs. If that man is the one that wouldn't throw punches on your face, if he is the man that makes you feel like a woman, please ignore what friends will say, you are the one marrying him not them... Let your happiness always come first. 

This message is for those that have been feeling deterred about what people will say about their choice of partner... Today, I'm telling you, make your decision and let whoever that will laugh go to hell!... In probably a year time, you will be doing your baby dedication.