Surely you, must have heard people say or ask that question and the answer is YES.They can have a clean and honest relationship with nothing between them.
The problem here is that far too many people are not honest with themselves and so often blur the lines between what is friendship and love affair.
The problem here is that far too many people are not honest with themselves and so often blur the lines between what is friendship and love affair.
First, define what you are doing?
If you are a married woman or Married man or perhaps you are in a relationship and NOT looking for love, be upfront with what you are doing/expecting from the friend of the opposite sex.
That leaves no room for misunderstanding, Heart breaks and stories that touch the heart. So you are clear, We are just friends, Should the friend decide to move the goal post and come closer, that's a red line,ove on from such friendship.
If you are a married woman or Married man or perhaps you are in a relationship and NOT looking for love, be upfront with what you are doing/expecting from the friend of the opposite sex.
That leaves no room for misunderstanding, Heart breaks and stories that touch the heart. So you are clear, We are just friends, Should the friend decide to move the goal post and come closer, that's a red line,ove on from such friendship.
Set Boundaries:
When a man and a woman are friends,There's an attraction. It is silly to even imagine that you are chatting a pretty girl without knowing and feeling that she is beautiful. It is natural just like getting erection doesn't mean you should have sex immediately. BUT that's where the set boundaries comes in. You can't get into languages that will compromise your friendship and turn it into something else. When i see some married men make comments on a pretty girl's picture, I pity their wives. Unless you are related or the lady is a close family friend, Your language in describing her beauty has to be measured. Imagine if your wife was reading your comments there? That's trouble! So set Boundaries, Where to stop and retreat before someone is hurt. Friendship with the opposite sex is lovely,Very good with boundaries. Finding a woman sexually attractive doesn't mean you should approach her for sex. A friend is a friend and a Lover is a lover.
Emotional blackmail:
So many girls sleeping with married men started as friends. Soon after the man blackmailed them into illicit affair.
His wife is a satan, Denies him sex for years, He is such a nice man and so generous to you and begs you to relieve him of his sex starvation. You did it once and that's it. You entered 'one chance' and have been doing it since then.
If his wife is as dangerous as he makes her look,If he loves you as he claims, Let him divorce that evil wife and marry you. He won't because it is all lies created to blackmail you into sleeping with him for cash.
Women do it also: Bro, I always like chatting with you,My husband can't make me as happy as you do. Really! So why are you still with your husband as bad as he is? Those are ways to trap a man into emotional blackmail and hold him down.
Watch it, the moment you become more than friend,
So many girls sleeping with married men started as friends. Soon after the man blackmailed them into illicit affair.
His wife is a satan, Denies him sex for years, He is such a nice man and so generous to you and begs you to relieve him of his sex starvation. You did it once and that's it. You entered 'one chance' and have been doing it since then.
If his wife is as dangerous as he makes her look,If he loves you as he claims, Let him divorce that evil wife and marry you. He won't because it is all lies created to blackmail you into sleeping with him for cash.
Women do it also: Bro, I always like chatting with you,My husband can't make me as happy as you do. Really! So why are you still with your husband as bad as he is? Those are ways to trap a man into emotional blackmail and hold him down.
Watch it, the moment you become more than friend,
Secret Things:
Nothing wrong with sharing secrets of your private life with a friend you trust for wise counsel, I did it and some share with me too. That's FINE.
Here is the Danger: The friend should never be an alternative to your partner. This is the problem many people face. Irrespective of the doom and gloom in your marriage or relationship,The friend has to remain neutral in all that. He/She can never be a substitute,an option in your Relationship. Take the advice [If it is good] Take all the kind words,Take all the prayers BUT never at any time see the friend as anything more than a friend. Human nature is subtle and women are weaker than men emotionally speaking. That's a why a guy can easily talk a women to his bed,Very easy. Watch the Secret things, The moment it becomes too dark,Run! You might be hurt in the process.
Nothing wrong with sharing secrets of your private life with a friend you trust for wise counsel, I did it and some share with me too. That's FINE.
Here is the Danger: The friend should never be an alternative to your partner. This is the problem many people face. Irrespective of the doom and gloom in your marriage or relationship,The friend has to remain neutral in all that. He/She can never be a substitute,an option in your Relationship. Take the advice [If it is good] Take all the kind words,Take all the prayers BUT never at any time see the friend as anything more than a friend. Human nature is subtle and women are weaker than men emotionally speaking. That's a why a guy can easily talk a women to his bed,Very easy. Watch the Secret things, The moment it becomes too dark,Run! You might be hurt in the process.
LOVING A FRIEND:
If you are single and you start loving the friend, be clear! Make it known that you have moved from Liking his/Her updates to liking him/her with intents. If he/she is keen,The rest you know. If not,Move on and don't hang around. A failed love bid could be very damaging. So save yourself the stress and move on.
I have more to write on this BUT time is not on my side.
I'll be back on this page at some point if any question[s]
God bless all and a very happy new month.
If you are single and you start loving the friend, be clear! Make it known that you have moved from Liking his/Her updates to liking him/her with intents. If he/she is keen,The rest you know. If not,Move on and don't hang around. A failed love bid could be very damaging. So save yourself the stress and move on.
I have more to write on this BUT time is not on my side.
I'll be back on this page at some point if any question[s]
God bless all and a very happy new month.
- Chris Ndu Nwabueze
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