When you are in an abusive relatioship

So many of us are in an abusive relationship just because we are scared to be single, some fix themselves there because they have so flaunt their relationship and rubbed it on the faces of their single friends, now they can't just walk away because they are so ashamed to face the new reality, some stay because of love... The truth remains, if you were happier when you were single, my dear, you have no business in that relationship you are in.

When we talk of "abusive relationship", some feel its only when your partner beats you black and blue that the relationship can be termed as abusive, but in the real sense, abusive relationship is way beyond violence. When your partner cheats on you, that relationship is abusive, when you catch your partner cheating and he/she has no remorse at all, that relationship is abusive, when your partner seem not to have time for you at all and don't even get bothered by it, that's an abusive relationship, when your partner calls you once in a blue moon (for those in distant relationship), that relationship is abusive, when your partner has lot of fault that is affecting the relationship and care not to improve for the good of the relationship, that relationship is abusive, And many more instances of abusive relationship.... If your relationship has one or two out of all these problems, well, you can manage depending on your managerial ability (lol), but when one relationship has all these faults or plenty of them, my dear, that's a typical example of an abusive relationship. No human being is perfect I know, but people who really care about you will make effort to be good, when they aren't making effort, then its bad and can lead to abusive relationship.   The best term for it is TOXIC RELATIONSHIP.

This kind of relationship affects every strata of your life; studies, work, social life, spiritual life, and even health wise... What are you still doing in it? You have given your best, its not still working, yet you don't want to walk away because its a "curse" to be single? You might be blocking your way to a better relationship... But never walk away without putting in your best to see it work, but when its just obvious that it wouldn't work, my dear just take a bow. Relationship is not a do or die affair, its not marriage which they say is for better for worse.

The problem with our society is that everyone (especially ladies) want to be in a relationship no matter how terrible the relationship is. Little wonder you see lot say they are single when asked, while they are "actually" with someone... Some are in such a mess that they can't even tell if that's a relationship or not.

Tell yourself the truth, if your heart tells you that its not a relationship, then its not... I might not make sense, but I know I just spoke to someone.

Walk!
It will only take time for your heart to heal, the rest will be story one day.