NEVER KNEW MEN COULD BE SO CRUEL

I met him when I travelled for an event in Warri, he was just all over me, it was love at first sight to me. He insisted I don't join my crew and travel back to Lagos, he asked me to spend more time with him for us to get to know each other. He lodged me in a hotel and I spent one week with him... I was a virgin when we met and he was the one that deflowered me (don't abuse me, I was naïve).

All through the one week stay in Warri with him, he didn't take me to his house, I was so comfortable with the hotel room and overwhelmed by the love and care he showered me that I forgot to request to go know his house. Before I left for Lagos after the one week with him, he convinced me that he love me and will do anything to be with me.

Fast forward to three years, we were still dating, the love was very much in tact (probably to me alone). He got a job with an oil company in Warri and had a lot of money (not that he really gives me, but I didn't care because I love him and that's all that mattered to me).

Each time I tell him I want to come over to Warri, he will give one excuse or the other, he will rather fly to Lagos and spend time with me in a hotel and ofcourse, we do have sex.

One day, he stopped calling and wouldn't pick my calls for no reason. I thought I probably offended him, so I was bent on getting him back. I kept calling and sending messages with the hope that he will return to me. With that three years of our relationship and even the time he stopped communicating, I never cheated on him.

After many months, he came back to me and apologised with the promise that he is a better man now. He said this time around that he wants to take our relationship to a higher level... He proposed. He met with my mum and told her his intention, he introduced me to his relatives in Lagos as his wife to me. I was feeling so fly, I didn't waste time in introducing him to whoever that cares to listen that he is my world.

Our relationship took a new dimension, he asked me not to call him as from 7pm that he feels exhausted whenever he returns from work therefore wouldn't want to entertain calls. I was so blindly in love that I didn't see the handwriting on the wall... I was madly in love. I still didn't know his house in Warri, infact, apart from that one week he kept me in a hotel in Warri, I never visited Warri again, but he always fly in Lagos and we spend time together in a hotel.

After three months of proposing, he didn't make any move as to come do the introduction. My mum kept pestering me when he will come and perform the necessary things and marry me.

One day, he told me not to call him throughout the weekend because he will be attending his sister's wedding and wouldn't have time to entertain calls, as a girl in love, I obeyed.

On the sunday of that weekend, he posted a picture of him on suit on facebook, I innocently commented "that's my sweetheart" on the photo. In the next two minutes, a lady came and commented "that's my hubby, I love you to the moon". I was yet to come out from the shock when people started bombarding me in the thread that I am a husband snatcher.

I went through the other lady's profile, lo and behold, I saw a wedding picture of her wedding to my supposed fiance. It was then I realised that the sister's wedding he told me was actually his own wedding.

I went mad, I couldn't believe what I saw. What did I do to deserve this kind of treatment? What did I do wrong? Is it a crime to sincerely love someone?

All I did to reach him via call proved abortive as he refused to pick my calls. I didn't know what to do, so I decided to contact the said wife. I told her our story and sent her pictures of sweet moments between my supposed fiance who is her husband and I. She replied and said "I can not fight my husband because of another woman".

I am so devastated, I'm not sure I can love again.