DON'T LET YOUR EX DESTROY YOUR RELATIONSHIP & MARRIAGE.

One of the most delicate relationship problems is the issue of EX LOVERS.

Keeping a close contact with your EX is not advisable if you have started another relationship. Also friendship with an EX cannot continue after marriage. Have you ever thought of why they left or behaved the way they did? The truth is that if they truly loved and missed you, they shouldn't have abandoned you or dumped you, they would have either married you or break up with you mutually.
My beloved pals, be careful how you relate with your Ex, never discuss your current relationship with your EX. It is a dangerous path to thread.

If you have started a new relationship or you are married, please keep your EX at a distance. They should please step aside while you enjoy your relationship, dating or marriage.
Now pay attention to this bitter facts, Some EX lovers are very crafty, smart, wicked, stubborn and can as well blackmail you to do his or her bidding. They can be very desperate.

Most of them behave like something that's being controlled by AMADIOHA. Most times they can suddenly wake up, and start hunting for you under the guise of let's come back together, you are my life, ever since I left you, I haven't known peace, is the work of the Devil, I don't know what came over me, I need you back, please give me a second chance blablabla.

If you find yourself in such a situation, do not be naive to fall for his or her crap if you have found a new relationship that you are happy with or if you are already married.

EX Lovers always come with stories that touches the heart so don't give a hut. Because it can ruin your happiness the second time and forever. I have counselled a good number of single and married people who end up having affairs with their EX. To be candid, most EX wrecked their homes leaving them frustrated and in perpetual agony. Once you are caught, your relationship and marriage wouldn't be the same again.

Let me be candid with you, we are humans, and emotions don't die. It is not easy to forget an EX. Especially the ones you shared your heart, body, soul, money, time, affection, attention, love and togetherness with the person.

So the feelings you have for your EX lovers haven't died completely but for you to move on and enjoy your relationship, dating or marriage with your new partner, you need to keep your EX Lover away, restrict communications if possible and love your Man or Woman like they are the only one in the world.

Most times, you may bump into your EX Lover, you need not turn back to look twice, because if you do, you may suddenly discover that you still have hidden feelings and passions for an Ex and any mistake may trigger an affair which doesn't end peacefully.
Little wonder some Men and Women still sleep with their EX while still under a new relationship or in their husband's house.
What did you really miss in your EX? Is it the abuse, the heartbreak, sex, penis, vagina, money, swag, romance, etc? Are you really being fair to the new person you are with.

Can't you calmly teach him or her how you like it, how you desire to be cared for, romanced, kissed, touched, smiled at and given attention all the time, can't you make it work? Why going back to your vomit? Say no to an Ex relationship, unless you are with no one and you see genuine repentance and change in him or her, then you can give it a rethink.

Keep your EX Lover off your relationship, dating, marriage and all that has to do with your private life. Better watch it, they always come back when you are happy, when you are about to marry and when someone has given you what they couldn't offer you which is true love.

Your EX Lover took a decision to turn his or her back on you, its his or her choice not to marry you and now that you are happily married or in a good relationship, they should leave you alone and let you enjoy your relationship, dating, courtship and matrimony.
Beware Most Ex are manipulators. Shine your eyes. You don't resolve heartbreak by having an affair with an Ex lover thereby breaking your partners heart. A word is enough for the wise.
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Love Is Not Enough

I have discovered that love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person all years round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with someone else.

Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline because, time will come when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you're in a relationship with.

In those times, love will not help you; self control will help you, emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going. With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life.

You think happily married people don't see better people than the ones they married? You think they don't feel funny sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings? They do!
But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that do destroy that impulse.

You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.

We are too fond of loving when it's convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. After then, you'll realise that the feelings have dropped, it's now your responsibility to make it work, not love's responsibility.

Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it's not just love that keeps them together forever, it's determination and commitment.

Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that.

That's why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions.

Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a career, It's like pursuing a dream. It's  always tough, at some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together, you can scale through the trying time by being focus and committed.

The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be emotionally strong and be self disciplined.

From a Facebook user.

Hurting Someone To Test Their Love

This is a funny thing that people do and they always think they are right about it. I used to be victim to such form of subtle abuse until my mind revealed to me that it was wrong.
Somebody comes to you professing love and the next thing, you start treating them shabbily in your bid to test if their love is real. Who taught you that?
You have been getting along with somebody, but the moment he/she starts professing love, you would change your attitude towards them, because you want to prove if they love you. in your mind you believe that abusing them psychologically, emotionally and even verbally is a sure way to test the credibility of their love.
This is totally wrong. What happened to being your real self and allowing them present what they have on your emotional table?

Some historical events for your enlightenments

Did you know that:

1. The River Niger Bridge at Onitsha was constructed between 1964 and 1965 by Dumez- a French construction company and cost £5 million
2. Patience Jonathan is one of Nigeria’s most-educated First Ladies, with an NCE, a B.Ed, and a PhD from University of Port-Harcourt
3. The highest peak in Nigeria is located in Taraba and is called Chappal Waddi which means “The Mountain of Death”
4. There are 196 countries in the world and at least one Igbo person from Nigeria lives in every one of them
5. The Pidgin word ‘Sabi’ came from ‘Saber’, Portuguese and Spanish for ‘to know’. Both country’s ships traded slaves from the Bight of Benin
6. Katsina College (now Barewa College in Zaria) has produced 5 Nigerian Presidents/Heads of State since it was founded in 1921 in Katsina
7. Ojukwu taught Murtala Mohammed and Ben Adekunle at Regular Officers Special Training School, Ghana. Both ‘fought’ their teacher during the civil war
8. At Nigeria’s independence in 1960, there were 41 Secondary Schools in the North and 842 Secondary Schools in the South
9. In 1983, Senator Arthur Nzeribe spent $16.5 million to win a Senatorial seat in Orlu (in Imo State)

What "For better and for worse" means

For better for worse in its Original form, means that couples are to go through the good and bad times of their marriage together. This is the simplest meaning. This vow is made by one spouse to the other. It is an expression of how much they value each other. However, I have issues with this marriage vow because it has been subjected to abuse and misinterpretation. Didn't the scripture say that if you won't keep a vow, don't make it?
So I stand before a woman and promise her the whole world and just a few months into our union, I have reneged on all those promises. The vow of for better for worse became official in the 16th century. It can not be found in the scriptures. I know that many Christians sincerely believe it is in their bible. What the bible says is this: 'then shall a man leave his father and mother and be cleaved to his wife and they shall become One'. They shall become one. As One, they experience the good and bad times. They face the challenges of marriage together. They are not to give up on each other. Each spouse is to be available for the other, in sickness, poverty, hunger, failure, weakness, everything. It didn't say, you should be there when he wants to punch. It didn't say you should be there when he turns into a herdsman. It didn't say allow him to pour acid on you.
People who are quick to quote this scripture are evil.
Survival is a basic human instinct. Are you a learner?
When you see danger, you have to run from it. When Jezebel threatened Elijah, he didn't go into fasting and prayer, he ran for his life.